Wednesday, July 14, 2010

No Es Adios, Sino Hasta Luego

Day 322 in Mexico

(title translation: this isn't goodbye, only see you later)

This is it, folks. My last blog from Mexico. It seems like a long time has past since I wrote my first post, and it’s true; eleven months has passed since I started my service with YAGM. Like I have many times, I’d like to thank you all for my interest in my time here and the work that I’ve been doing. I am so looking forward to telling you all about it in person.

I honestly had hoped to get another post out before this one, but these past few weeks have been INSANELY busy. It was the time of getting in a couple last fun things – a weekend trip to Mexico City to see the tourist sites, hitting up markets on weekends to buy last minute items I’ve been eying all year, attending the 4th of July backyard barbeque at the US Ambassador to Mexico’s residence (thanks to Peter being asked to grace the party with his awesome singing talent and perform the National Anthem… luckily he got to bring a guest). It was also a busy time at work, finishing up lessons in the kindergarten and watching them graduate (so cute), organizing and preparing my materials for the next volunteer, and of course, saying my goodbyes. And, you know, there was a World Cup game or two to watch in between. As much as I wanted to keep everyone updated on things as they happened, this was a time to be really living my experiences, not documenting them (as those who’ve noticed less frequent communication from me and the absence of current pictures posted on my Facebook can attest to). But now that I’m done, have said my goodbyes, and am just two days away from reentering the US, it’s probably time for an update.

Like I said, there was a lot of fun activity these past few weeks, but it’s also been an incredibly emotional and tiring time as well. My last week was one, long, extended goodbye, starting last Sunday, when our group of volunteers gathered to host a dinner for our work supervisors and families. It was a really nice way to kick off a week of despedidas (farewells); we got to share a meal and some fellowship for the people who have been kind enough to house us and guide us at work this past year, and in addition say a couple words of thanks to each person and family. Our invitees also got to share some words if they so chose, and it was really wonderful to see what kind of strong bonds have developed over this year and the mutual respect and affection that’s grown between us and our hosts. It seems we’ve come a long way since last August.

I was thinking a lot about my last week of work before it even began; I remember that when I first arrived, the women at La Estación were still grieving the loss of the past volunteer (really, leaving a tight community like this can be tough). They talked a lot about her last week and despedida, how they all cried when she left, how she left them all letters, and so on. I felt a lot of pressure to live up to this image, especially as it started being brought up more as my final week drew near. I finally (thankfully) accepted that my goodbyes didn’t have to be a replay of last year; maybe they’d be less heartfelt, maybe more, but they should be special in their own way. Let me tell you, the ladies at my job did not disappoint. After our weekly meeting last Tuesday, we had a party at the community center. Everyone brought a dish to share, several of the moms brought me goodbye presents (which I was not expecting), and everyone seemed to have a hug and some kind words for me. I had written some things that I wanted to tell the women as a group; I didn’t trust myself to know what to say in the moment, so I brought a prepared sheet to read to them. I stood up in front of the group, starting reading my spiel, and before I knew it I was crying, almost too hard to keep going. I look up and all of the moms are crying too. It was a touching, bittersweet moment, almost gut wrenching to think about leaving these amazing women who have invited me to be part of their community, but amazing to see how much we care for each other, and how much I really had been accepted and loved by them. After I finished, they also had a chance to say some things to me (which made me cry more, of course). It was an emotional morning, to say the least… and this was still three days before my last day of work! Luckily things calmed down, we shared the delicious potluck meal (they made me tostadas with tinga, which is similar to barbequed pork and one of my favorite foods here), and I took pictures with all the women to keep as mementos.

The rest of the week, if not as emotionally exhausting, was just as busy. Wednesday my boss at La Estación and some of her team took me out for a delicious seafood lunch; if you’re celebrating a special occasion here, chances are you go out for seafood. Thursday was the graduation ceremony for the kindergarten, which is a way bigger deal here than in the US (I don’t remember if I even had a kindergarten graduation). All the girls buy a fancy dress, the boys wear suits, and they put on a pageant. The third years, or five year olds that will be heading to elementary school in the fall, dance the waltz (which is not actually a proper waltz, just partner dancing) and the younger kids sing a farewell song to them. There’s also a ceremony where a flag escort from the graduating class hands over the Mexican flag to the incoming third years; Seriously, it was a big deal. Unfortunately, this year it began raining just as the ceremony was beginning, so things got a little more chaotic than usual. Luckily it let up, and the kids were still able to dance. Afterwards, I attended not a few graduation parties at the kid’s homes; it was fun, and let’s just say I didn’t go hungry that day. I couldn’t stay too long though, because it was my last day and despedida at my second job, Casa Tatic. It was lovely as well and more low-key than the tearful goodbyes at La Estación. The kids made cards and drawings for me, something to the effect of “Miss Katy, you are pretty, thanks for giving us computer classes.” It was very sweet. I also got a couple more presents from the teachers there, and a cake, actually my second cake of three that week (I’d call a three cake week a success). I was happy to have the quieter goodbye, and I left feeling a little sad, but content with my ending. Friday was my very last day at La Estación, and I spent it visiting the mom’s homes one last time, handing out thank you cards I wrote for them and the pictures I took earlier in the week. It was nice to be able to express my gratitude individually, say my last goodbyes, and give them something to remember me by. There were more hugs, more tears, but I felt good as I left. Goodbyes can be a tricky thing, and I was very much concerned about “leaving well;” I didn’t want to be plagued by the idea of loose ends, farewells that went unsaid, or a bad ending, But I couldn’t have asked for more; I was so moved at the expressions of gratitude and love, and I sincerely hope all the people I’m leaving behind know how much gratitude and love I have for them as well.

Now I’m all done, having packed up all my things and moved out of my host family’s house; they also had a small despedida for me, and though we didn’t form super close bonds over the past five months I’ve been with them, we ended our time together very amicably. This week is our final YAGM retreat, and all the volunteers – Peter, Sara, Sarah, Katie and I – and our coordinator Andrea are staying together just outside of Cuernavaca at the lovely weekend home of a friend. It’s a chance to spend some time together and reflect on this year, gather our thoughts before we head to the airport on Friday. Though I’m anxious to get home, I’m glad to have this time to relax and reflect, some buffer space between the sadness of leaving and the excitement of going home (and some time to write a blog post as well).

I think this is where I sign off. There may be a follow up post once I get back (reverse culture shock might be an interesting phenomenon to sort through) or maybe not. Again, thank you so much for your interest in my time here; it’s meant the world to me to have your support, and I couldn’t have done this without all the encouragement I received from back home. If you don’t know what’s next for me already, I’ll be moving to Champaign, Illinois shortly after I get back to take a position with Americorps. I’ll be working for the Campaign for Better Health Care as their Communications and Technology Coordinator in the Champaign office. I’m excited about this next step and am hoping for more learning opportunities and adventures as I move forward. I’ll see you all stateside on Friday!

Peace and blessings,

Katherine

Here are some pictures from my last month. Enjoy!


From our trip to Mexico City, in front of the Palacio de Bellas Artes. We also visited Frida Kahlo's house, Templo Mayor (ruins of the main Temple of Tenochtitlan), Xochimilco (an area of the city where canal systems still exist and you can take boat rides), and the Anthropology Museum.


Me and Peter with Carlos Pascual, US Ambassador to Mexico at the Embassy's Fourth of July party.


Me and my host family: from left Hipolito, Alicia, and Mireya (my "host sister")


Me and my good friend Lupita from La Estacion and her kids Ivanna, Sebastian, and Alexa.


At my despedida with another mom, Carmen, and her daughters... tell me we don't look like a family!

Sunday, June 6, 2010

A Letter to You

Day 284 in Mexico

Dear Family, Friends, and All Others,

This is a letter written for you, whoever you are or whatever relation you are to me (family member, friend, friend of a friend, former teacher, acquaintance, what have you). It has come to my attention, as you might have guessed, that it’s June, my last full month here in Mexico. It’s hard for me to believe that my time here is coming to an end. There were days or weeks here and there where time dragged, times when it seemed like the end of my service would never come, but here we are, less than six weeks from my homecoming. I want to thank you for continuing to take an interest in what I’m doing here, and for all the kindness, well wishes, and support that you’ve provided me throughout these 9+ months. Believe me, they’ve been very much appreciated.

A couple of weeks ago, our volunteer group had our spring retreat, where we gathered together for four days at a convent in northern Cuernavaca. We did many interesting things, including spending 24 hours in contemplative silence, taking a fun day trip to a balneario (natural water park), and watching Peter have an allergic reaction to a sulfa based drug (that was an interesting experience that we could probably all have done without). The overarching theme of those days, however, was going home – where we’re at emotionally, what we’d like to do to make sure our time here ends well, what makes us excited or nervous about arriving home once again. To help us process some of these emotions, our coordinator Andrea suggested we write a letter to someone back home, more for ourselves than the recipient, explaining in the rawest and most honest of terms how we’re feeling about the whole repatriation ordeal. I’ve been through reverse culture shock once before, coming home from my study abroad experience, and it honestly wasn’t that bad. I remember being very surprised at how big the shopping carts were (Buenos Aires supermarkets had these tiny little carts) and how unfriendly I was to people passing on the streets; for at least a couple of months it would never occur to me to smile at them or greet them, and I eyed those that did so to me with a great deal of suspicion; living in a huge, bustling mega-city temporarily killed my small town kindness instincts. However, this year has definitely been different than studying abroad, and given my lifestyle changes and the longer time I’ve spend abroad, I’m thinking that there’s a greater chance for difficulties. Hence, my letter to you; I’d like to try to express some of those feelings; maybe by doing so, the whole coming home process will be easier for both of us.

In all honesty, my feelings about coming home are best described as ambivalent. Like I said, there have been, and still are, days when I can’t wait to get on that plane, and many others when I don’t know how I’ll be able to leave. The truth is that I don’t know how I’ll feel being back home. Yes, I’ll be excited to see you, but I’m guessing I’ll also be pretty sad about having just ended what has been a fantastic, eye-opening, experience of a lifetime year. The relationships I’ve formed here have been hard-earned, created through baby steps and missteps and a lot of time. It took a while for me to feel really established here, like I belonged, and there are some days when I still don’t feel like I do. However, the thought of leaving behind those relationships that I’ve fought so hard to make is really painful. The moms that I work with are already saying, “You’re leaving so soon,” “Please don’t go,” or “We have to make sure to do this soon, before you leave.” Every time I hear that, I feel a pang in my chest, and I hasten to either change the subject or dismiss it; after all I’m not leaving just yet. Those statements are hard, both because they make it more difficult to stay fully present, able to enjoy my last weeks here, but also because they’re a reminder of how much I will miss all of the women and children that I’ve met here, and how in so many ways I’m not ready to leave them behind. So, I ask of you that you be sensitive to this. I don’t know exactly what my emotional reaction will be in my first weeks (maybe even months) back in the US, but as of now homecoming is looking to be a bittersweet experience. If I do feel a little low, or talk about how much I miss Mexico, don’t take it personally. I am excited to come back, but I’m also going to be grieving the loss of relationships with really amazing people with whom it’ll be hard to stay in good contact.

Coming home from Mexico seems to present its own special homecoming issues. I haven’t been living in the bush for the past year; it’s not like I’ve been bathing once a week out of a bucket or living without electricity. I have wireless Internet in my house, I pass the Walmart every day on my way to work, and I’ve been to Starbucks and the mall and a 3-D movie during my time here. Some of these parts of my life don’t seem that different from home, meaning when I talk about “repatriation,” I don’t think I’ll have a heart attack walking into Target. Also, when you really think about it, I’m physically not that far away. My flight home is only a few hours; it’s no further from Tucson to Cuernavaca than it is from Tucson to Chicago. However, I think that presents some possible challenges in coming back, in that you and I might underestimate the difficulty of me making the switch between living in Mexico and living in the US. Sure it’s a short flight, but I think that might actually be harder. I won’t have any time to process the switch. I leave Mexico City early morning, and including transfers and everything, I should be in Tucson by 1 p.m. How is it possible that I really haven’t been that far away this whole time, and yet my life is so radically different? How is it that I’ve been living in a country that struggles with so many issues – desperate poverty, widespread drug violence, corruption at every level – and in a few hours I can be home, leaving those problems on the other side of the border? The truth is, I might not be that far away, but my life here does have significant differences. I live differently, I spend less, I speak a different language. To dismiss those differences would not make my homecoming easy by any means. Furthermore, Mexico has the distinction of being something of a hot-button subject as far as countries go, thanks to strained US-Mexico relations and illegal immigration issues. I'm very open to discussing these issues or my opinions on the matter. However, slurs or cuts taken at Mexico or its people, especially coming from someone like you, someone who cares about me, will not be well received. Know that I've formed deep bonds and loyalties to the people here; I really don't want to get defensive. Even while recognizing that it's an unhealthy and pointless reaction, if there was an insensitive comment made about the people who've cared for me the past year, I'd be quick to speak up in their defense.

My lifestyle is not the only thing that’s changed; I’ve changed. I can’t even really tell you how, or to what degree; maybe you’ll think I’m the same, or perhaps that I’m radically different. There’s no way of telling. At our retreat, we were each sharing parts of our letters, and something that Peter said really seemed to fit for me. I’m going to use some of his words loosely here: this year has changed me, and those changes are going to manifest themselves in myself, my actions, and my attitudes when I get back; I just don’t know how. I’m guessing I’m going to talk a lot about Mexico upon my return, as in “When I was in Mexico,” or “This one time in Mexico.” This is for two reasons (maybe more, but two for sure). One, all of my most recent experiences have, obviously, happened in Mexico, so until I spend a little time back stateside, those are the stories and insights that I have to offer. Secondly, living here has now become part of my identity. I can identify myself as someone who’s lived in Mexico for a year, that’s had a Mexican “family,” someone that’s familiar with the language and the people and the customs (even those that still baffle me). I’ll need that new identity to be recognized; otherwise, it’ll be like this year never happened at all. How might you do this? First, be patient with my Mexico stories; maybe they’ll get old, but I’m hoping if you have the interest level to read my blogs, you won’t mind listening to a yarn or two about a crazy bus driver or something amazing my kids did in the kindergarten one day. Questions would be good, although please just don’t ask, “How was Mexico?” when I see you again. I won’t be able to answer such a thing. I won’t be able to share my entire experience in one word, or even one sitting; it’s going to have to come out gradually. I’ll probably never be able to tell or express all that I’ve done and seen and learned here, but any way that you can show that you’re interested will be greatly appreciated.

I can’t reiterate enough that I just don’t know how I’ll feel. At the end of my study abroad, I got very ill and actually left a couple weeks early; at that point, I was so ready to be done that coming home was a relief. Barring any unforeseen sicknesses, I think this time around could be very different. There will probably be good days and bad days, just as there were when I arrived here. Maybe I’ll feel like I never left, or perhaps I’ll feel like I just don’t fit in in my own country. Maybe I’ll be relieved to be able to speak in English and have myself fully and clearly understood, or depressed at the lack of opportunities to use my Spanish. It’s really impossible to say at this point. I think the greatest thing I ask of you is to be patient. If Mexico is all I can talk about, be patient. If I can’t stand to buy something because I converted the price into pesos in my head and the price now seems astronomical, be patient. If I try to put salsa on everything because I think non-spicy food has no flavor, be patient. If I’m moody, be patient. If I run out into traffic to pick a dime off the road because, after all, a dime is like a whole peso… okay, that’s a little extreme. But you get my point.

Maybe this will be an incredibly smooth transition, and maybe not. Know that despite the difficulties that may await, I have missed home, and you, and will be very happy to see you. Again, thank you for your love and support. I will see you (in person!) very soon.

Peace and blessings,

Katherine

P.S. Andrea, my coordinator, wrote a similar letter last year to the families of returning YAGMs, filled with suggestions on understanding this transition and making it easier. Check it out on her blog: http://andreaandluke.blogspot.com/2009/05/open-letter-to-friends-families-of.html

Thursday, May 13, 2010

May in Cuernavaca (or Heat Waves, Narcos, and Cinco de Mayo)

Day 260 in Mexico

I begin this May installment of my blog with a common theme: an apology and explanation why this is coming so late. I actually did plan on writing this several weeks ago, but I had a bit of technological misfortune. After five long years of sticking by my side and holding all my documents, pictures, music, and other treasures, my computer’s hard drive suddenly and violently bit the dust. Consequently, I lost all of aforementioned information aside from a few select things I did have on a flash drive (word to the wise: back up your computers!), my lap top spent almost two weeks in the Laptop Hospital (literally the computer repair shop’s name), and since I got it back I’ve been working on getting it back into some semblance of the operating shape it was in. So, long story short, I got a little distracted from my blog-writing. It was an unfortunate and unexpected hassle, but so it goes.

So, what are the latest goings-on in Cuernavaca? For starters, it’s hot. People kept warning me about the hot season here, which hits between April and June, but I brushed those statements aside. I thought that after living though Arizona summers for four years, I was pretty much immune to extreme weather; besides, how hot could it really get in the City of Eternal Spring? Really hot. And unlike Arizona, where every building is air conditioned and every house has a pool, the heat isn’t so escapable here. It’s interesting that that’s what the starting point of most of my conversations is now; all we can talk about is how hot it is. I live and die by the pedestal fan in my room.

Aside from the weather, things in Cuernavaca are going pretty well. In mid-April, however, things started to look a little ugly in our city. I have been hesitant to mention this in my blogs or any communications back home, because I don’t want people to worry about me being here or my general safety, but as a part of my life and an important issue in my community, I think it deserves to be brought up. When I arrived, Cuernavaca wasn’t disputed by the drug cartels; pretty much the entire interior of the country surrounding Mexico City was relatively free from drug-related violence, unlike the border and coastal regions. However, with the assassination of a major drug lord here in December, which I mentioned in an earlier post, the city suddenly became up for grabs, and rival drug cartels began encroaching upon it. It seemed rather sudden, but right after Holy Week some disturbing drug-related events began occurring in the city: gruesome murders, bodies found along highways, killings that occurred in more public areas than ever before. All of this was contained completely within the drug-trafficking associations themselves; civilians and tourists were not and are not targets. But it was unsettling nevertheless. It all came to a head one Friday afternoon, when an email started circling like wildfire among Cuernavaca residents that allegedly was sent from the members of a drug cartel. The email explained that the cartel was essentially imposing a curfew on the city, as there was to be major violence between them and their rival cartel. They advised all civilians to be in their homes by 8 p.m. Obviously, this brought about panic; our volunteer group was rounded up and spent the night together at the retreat center in town. Though we passed a tense night waiting to hear what happened, absolutely nothing came of it. Nothing the email said was going to happen happened, but the headline of the next morning newspaper pretty much said it all: Fear Wins. People are scared; I’ve had a lot of conversations with the people I live and work with about the matter. I don’t feel particularly frightened or threatened; I know I’m not a target, and that if the situation became very unstable I would be put on a flight back home. But it’s different for the people who actually live here. They’re afraid to be out after dark, to let their kids walk to school by themselves, and the soldiers that now patrol the streets make them nervous (Mexico’s answer to everything is militarization). Things have thankfully quieted down since then, but in the discussions I’ve had, it’s obvious that it’s still on people’s minds. In addition, even though this hasn’t made headline news in the U.S., this has major implications for Cuernavaca’s economy. The big businesses here are tourism and language schools; already people are deciding not to come for fear of drug violence. Every cab driver I have asks me about it; they all seem nervous that there won’t be any tourist business for them anymore. It’s not a good situation, and unfortunately, the government doesn’t seem to give a decent response to the issue. I’m hoping I’ll have better news to report on the situation by the time I leave here, but this may not be an issue that resolves itself quickly.

On a much, much lighter note, I got a little more vacation at the beginning of this last month ( it’s funny, I went on vacation right after the last major drug episode in December. You take the good with the bad, I guess). As most of you know, Cinco de Mayo was just last week, but as many people don’t know (I didn’t) it’s really not that big of a deal in Mexico. It commemorates the 1862 Battle of Puebla, where the Mexican army defeated the powerful French army, who were essentially trying to take over the country. The only city in Mexico that truly celebrates the day is Puebla, so that’s where Katie, Sara, Peter and I decided to go; thanks to the Mexican school calendar and its generous amount of vacation days, I didn’t even miss any school. It’s really a lovely city, bigger than Cuernavaca although it retains a small-town feel in the historic center. And unlike Cuernavaca, which seems a giant mass of winding, convoluted streets with sidewalks that disappear into nowhere (part of its charm), Puebla is designed on a grid, with numbered streets and wide sidewalks. As someone who gets around via walking and public transportation, I can’t even describe to you how much I appreciated this. It’s also famous for Baroque architecture; Talavera pottery, a special type of ceramic pottery; and for being the birthplace mole poblano, a classic Mexican sauce made out of chocolate and spices. We spent most of our time wandering the streets, visiting churches and sites, including a tour Talavera factory and the widest pyramid in the world in nearby Cholula, and of course eating delicious food. We also caught the tail end of a Baroque festival that was happening for several weeks in April and May, and as a result got to see a number of different musical events, ranging from symphony orchestra to Baaba Maal, a Senegalese singer. My friend and fellow volunteer Katie actually used to live in Senegal, so she was especially excited to see that particular concert, and Peter, being an avid music lover, was very happy about all the music events as well. Cinco de Mayo itself, however, was not even that huge of a celebration in Puebla. There was a big parade in the morning along one of the cities main avenues, which also happens to be named Avenida Cinco de Mayo. I found the parade to be somewhat of a disappointment. The streets were lined with chairs, but you had to pay to sit in them, and everybody there was carrying an umbrella, which made visibility issues a bit difficult. We ended up watching from some bushes surrounding a nearby statue. The parade itself was comprised of a large amount of military and police forces, complete with heavy artillery, tanks and all. First there came the marching military, then the military in their trucks with their guns, then the military tanks, then a group carrying bayonets… it was a bit much for my taste. Towards the end there were more traditional parade features, high school marching bands and floats, but by that time we were tired and decided to move along. I didn’t see a lot of other celebration going on; many people had the day off and were strolling around downtown, but it was nothing like the margarita-drinking fest that happens in the US. All in all, however, it was a very pleasant trip; a former professor who lived for awhile in Puebla told me I absolutely had to go, that it was the colonial jewel of central Mexico, and his statement was pretty accurate. It was a very good time.

Well, that’s all for now. I’m back at work, battling the heat, and looking forward to enjoying the souvenirs I bought in Puebla: planting a flower in my new Talavera flower pot and cooking mole poblano with the mix I bought (prepare yourselves, family). Until soon!

.Here are some photographic highlights from Puebla:

Taking a tour of Talavera Uriarte, a certified Talavera factory that’s been in operation since the 1800’s.

You don’t get much more Baroque than the Capilla del Rosario (Chapel of the Rosary). It was so ornate and so gold that it was almost impossible to look directly at it.

Peeking through an interesting sculpture in Puebla’s zocalo.

At the Baaba Maal concert! I’ve never heard his music before (Senegalese pop) but I’m a new fan.

Authentic mole poblano… yum.

Friday, April 9, 2010

Vacation and Semana Santa

Day 226 in Mexico

Hello again, and happy April! I’d like to write about the last couple weeks in March, which were certainly eventful. First, I had a visit from my boyfriend, Ehsan, and secondly, it was Semana Santa (Holy Week) which is a very important week here in Catholic Mexico. I’ll start with the former; Ehsan was thankfully able to visit me during his spring break, and because I had all of Holy Week off of work as well he was able to stay a little longer. It was a much anticipated trip for me, and it did not disappoint. When I originally asked him what he wanted to do, he said, “I want to see ruins.” (What he actually said was, “I want to see Incan ruins,” but since the Incas inhabited Peru, that would have been logistically difficult). Ruins, though, were doable; just north of Mexico City is one of the most important ruin sites in Latin America, Teotihuacán. Teotihuacán, in its heyday, was a powerful urban center, both religiously and commercially speaking, and was one of the most influential cities in the region. It’s now an amazing archeological site; two of its most impressive features are the Pyramids of the Moon and the Sun. The Pyramid of the Sun is the third tallest pyramid in the world, behind the pyramids in Egypt and another in central Mexico. So the day after he arrived, a Sunday, we set out for the archeological site, which is an easy bus ride from Mexico City. Upon arrival, however, we found it absolutely teeming with people. Literally, there must have been 100,000 visitors at the site. I had read in my Lonely Planet (my travel bible) that Sundays were generally the busiest days, but I didn’t expect anything like that. Little by little, however, it became clear that this was a special day; it was the first day of spring. Many people make a pilgrimage to Teotihuacán on the first day of spring, dressed in white, to welcome the incoming season, worship the sun, and draw energy from the ancient site. We silly tourists had no idea. While it was cool to see in some ways, it also meant four hour lines to climb the Pyramid of the Sun and the site’s museum, which was supposed to have some very interesting artifacts and exhibits, was closed due to the high volume of people. We decided, therefore, to come back the next day as well to see the things we didn’t get to the first time around. Sure enough, we showed up on Monday afternoon, and the site was all but deserted. We got to experience Teotihuacán both as a teeming city and as a site of silent ruins, and, most importantly, we got to climb the pyramid (below is a picture of us atop the Pyramid of the Sun, with the Pyramid of the Moon in the background). In Mexico City, we also explored the zócalo (central plaza) a bit, went inside the National Cathedral, and also saw the fabulous Diego Rivera murals in the National Palace.

After Mexico City, I brought Ehsan to Cuernavaca for a couple days. The first day, we took a break from site seeing, after having packed a lot into just a couple days in Mexico City. The second day, I took him to work with me to show him a day in the life of Katherine the kindergarten teacher. It was a lot of fun. My parents, unfortunately, visited my work on a day when classes weren’t in session, so this time around I was really excited to have someone from home see me as a teacher. The week before, I had begged the kids to behave well when I brought my visitor, and they actually did pretty well. I did a shorter class with each group, just reviewing what we were learning, took Ehsan on a tour of my site, ate delicious enchiladas at the breakfast program, introduced him to all the mothers that were there, and had him take a mountain of pictures. For me, at least, it was a thoroughly enjoyable morning, and Ehsan also said that he had a lot of fun seeing what I do everyday. It’s still interesting to me that over the past months I’ve morphed into a teacher; I remember when I first arrived without a clue in the world what I was going to do with a group of preschool aged children and no teaching experience, and now I’m making lesson plans. I also took him to see my house; unfortunately, my host family wasn’t around, so he didn’t get to meet them, but it was still good to be able to show him where I’m living. That same night, after our couple days in Cuernavaca, we took an overnight bus to Zihuatanejo, a city on the beach north of Acapulco. The night bus was no fun at all, but our beach vacation itself was amazing. I’m not a huge fan of Acapulco itself; it’s crowded, there’s terrible traffic, it’s noisy, and the beaches are both not very clean and completely lined with high rise hotels. Zihuatanejo was virtually the opposite; a small town that was once a quiet fishing village, it’s a laidback, relaxed town on a bay with absolutely gorgeous beaches. Our hotel was perfect, the water was calm and warm, we got to do all sorts of activities like jetskiing, snorkeling, and parasailing, the seafood was great, and every night we fell asleep to the sound of waves on the beach just below our hotel balcony. There were no high rises, the beaches were clean, and the weather was perfect. It was, hands down, the best beach vacation I’ve ever had (Do you happen to recognize the name Zihuatanejo? It’s not as well known as, say, Acapulco or Cancun, but it is where Tim Robbins and Morgan Freeman escape to in the end of The Shawshank Redemption. Check it out).

After our wonderful vacation, it was time to take Ehsan back to Mexico City and say goodbye. Thankfully, I didn’t have to jump straight back into work; it was Semana Santa, Holy Week here in Mexico, which is a much bigger deal than it is in the US. Many people have the whole week off, and schools have two weeks off (which means yes, this teacher is still on vacation). My new host family left to spend the week in Guerrero, participating in a number of church activities, and I spent the week with my friend Sara. While we spent most of the week quietly in Cuernavaca, visiting some of her host mom’s family for a cookout and attending a Maunday Thursday service, we went to the city of Taxco for Good Friday. Taxco is known for having elaborate processions and other activities throughout Semana Santa, but perhaps the most well known event is the procession of los penitentes (the penitent ones) on Good Friday. Following a noontime procession which commemorates the three falls of Jesus as he carried his own cross to his crucifixion, the procession of the penitentes involves three different acts of penitence, all of which require self sacrifice and even some degree of self mutilation. Though I really wanted to see it, I was a little nervous that I would be able to handle the gory parts. Sara also had some feeling of trepidation, I believe, but in the end we decided it was an experience we shouldn’t miss out on.

Unfortunately, we got a little bit of a late start on Friday. By the time we got to the bus station, the next bus was already full, so we had to wait until after 11 to leave. When we finally arrived in Taxco, people were pouring out of the zócalo. Crap, we thought, we missed the procession of the three falls of Jesus. We decided to head to the ex-convent, the church where many of the day and week’s services and activities were taking place, and on our way there we ran into the same procession, also on its way to the ex-convent. There was a river of people following that as well, so I only got pictures from behind. Large teams of people were touting religious figures, including the Virgin Mary and Jesus in a coffin.

Once at the church, the procession entered for a brief service; since there were so many people, we couldn’t really fit into the church until it was all over. We hung around for a bit, watching the crowds, trying to snap a couple pictures, and waiting for things to die down. It was a very interesting atmosphere; it was simultaneously had the feel of an important religious event and a popular tourist trap. There were Mexican families with small children, foreign tourists with their backpacks and expensive cameras, and older women dressed somberly, with veils or shawls over their heads. At one point I was trying to squeeze into the church door to snap a picture of the goings-on, and when I turned around I realized I was in front of a small old woman who only came up to my shoulder. Her head was veiled, she had no camera, and she was trying to peek inside. In that moment, I felt like a bad tourist; it was very odd for us to be smashed up against people for whom this was an incredibly sacred event. Needless to say, I backed out of the church and got out of her way.

For the rest of the afternoon, we relaxed in the town, grabbed a very tasty bite to eat, and waiting until five o’clock, when the penitentes were slated to begin their procession. At about four, we grabbed on a spot on a doorstep of a closed shop along the street where they pass by. The penitentes were supposed to leave from the church, and our spot was purposefully close to the beginning in order to see the procession while the participants were still fresh and hopefully not too bloody. We kept seeing people pass by on their way to the church; women dressed in black and veils, teams men carried large bundles of thick spiky stems, about as big around and as spiny as a saguaro cactus, and a surprising number of vendors, I suppose taking advantage of the large number of people in town. Then, a few minutes after five, it started. The first group to come through were children; first a group of babies and toddlers carried by their mothers, dressed in white angel costumes. Then came a group of slightly older children, dressed in black and carried candles, followed by people hoisting a large angel over their heads, then by veiled, barefoot women carrying incense.

Then, the penitentes. I heard them before I saw them, the sound of heavy chains being rhythmically dragged on the cobblestones. It was the first group of penitentes, the animas, which is the only group that women can participate in. They were dressed in head to toe black, including black hoods over their heads (all the pentitentes do this to preserve anonymity), barefoot, with thick, rough ropes tied around their waists. They were bent over, almost at a ninety degree angle, and their feet were shackled; they dragged the chains behind them through the streets, creating the eerie sound that preceded them as they went. They were also carrying tall candles that dripped wax onto their bare hands. The procession stopped every so often (I’ll explain why in a second), and even while resting many of them stayed bent over. It would be hard to simply walk through the rough, cobblestone streets barefoot; it would be extremely hard bent over. It must have wreaked havoc on their backs.

The next group to come through were the encruzados (the cross carriers). This was an even harsher treatment. All of these men (only men in this group) had the bundles of thorny branches tied to their outstretched arms. In some ways, they looked like they themselves were crucified, with their arms outstretched in a T-shape, the large bundles of thorns carried on their shoulders, arms, and necks, and their arms bound to their burden, unable to be put down for a rest. They too were hooded, barefoot, shirtless and bound at the waist by thick ropes. I’m not exactly sure how they managed to breathe in deeply enough to walk with the weight that was on their shoulders. Every time the procession stopped, there was a team that would help lift the bundle up for them, as to relieve the weight and allow the encruzados to stand upright a bit more and stretch (as they walked, their shoulders were rolled forward and they were looking at the ground, not straight ahead). Many of these men were large and burly, but some of them were thin and obviously quite young. These struggled the most; again, the weight of their burden was unimaginable. Sara told me that some of them don’t always go through the entire procession; which is almost a mile around the whole town. Their black hoods allow them to switch out with another person if they can’t go on.

The last group, however, had the harshest treatment of all. The atmosphere along the procession wasn’t quite as somber as I thought it might be. It certainly wasn’t a happy vibe, but people were talking, walking past, taking pictures; some people were even observing from restaurant balconies that overlooked the streets. However, things got a lot quieter when the flagelantes passed. They, again, were shirtless, hooded, barefoot, and bound with rope, and each was carrying a wooden cross and a white cord that had one end that was covered in small barbs. They were the ones for whom the procession stopped. Every so often, everyone would stop, the flagelantes would hand their cross to a helper, and then kneel down at the ground. After praying or often crossing themselves, they would take their barbed cord and begin throwing it over their shoulders, flagellating their own backs with the barbed end. It was kind of intense; each man didn’t flagellate himself every time they stopped, so some of them were just beginning when they stopped in front of us. We watched as small pricks of blood began to surface on their skin. Some of them had already been flagellating themselves, and they had large, bloody sores on their backs. There were young men, old men (their poor skin tearing like delicate paper), big men, thin men. Some of them didn’t use much force when hitting themselves; it sounded like a gentle fwap, fwap. Some hit a lot harder. There were a couple men that were bad enough to have the blood dripping onto their black robes and feet. I saw a couple looking at their white, barbed whips when they were done, covered in blood. I don’t know what must have been running through their minds. It was both enthralling and hard to watch; I can’t believe people brought their kids to the event. However, it seemed that many people were pretty accustomed to the event; it was the tourists that sometimes looked a bit queasy.

The procession went on for a long time; we were easily watching for an hour and a half from our spot before the end of the procession came though, with Jesus in a clear casket being carried through the crowds. When we left Taxco later that evening, it was still going on. How they went on like that for hours, I don’t know. I didn’t really know what to make of the whole thing. It definitely seemed like a very ascetic, medieval form of Christianity. Sara’s host mother, a devout Christian, was not a fan. As she put it, “God doesn’t want his creation to be hurting themselves like that.” In part, I agree. What does it mean that people are willingly committing to inflicting pain on themselves on the same day that Jesus died to take away our pain and sin? I wish I understood the ends of such a procession. Was it truly an act of penitence, for either individual transgressions or the transgressions of a humanity that crucified the Son of God? Were they expressing their inward, spiritual sorrow on the outside? Was it an act of solidarity with Jesus, trying in some way to absorb or share in his pain? Was it simple tradition, an act of masochism, a misguided sense of faith, a shock factor tourist attraction? I really don’t know; I think it could have elements of many things. But part of me feels that the men and women who participate in this have a greater understanding of Good Friday, and thus perhaps Easter, than I do. Good Friday has never been more than a passing thought to me, an acknowledgment of a sad day in the church but really just a stepping stone to get to Easter. I think I’ll continue to puzzle about it; though it was difficult to watch, I’m glad I saw it.

The rest of my Holy Week was not nearly as intense. Many Mexican holidays seem to follow the pattern of having a lot of buildup but not much activity on the actual day. Easter, then, was actually a pretty quiet day; people didn’t really seem to do much. I went to the English-speaking Anglican church in Cuernavaca, which has a service not that difference from the Lutheran one, as well as a very talented choir and some good hymn choices. I don’t get a lot out of Catholic Mass, and on Easter, I want to feel like I’m actually getting something out of church. And after all the intensity of the Passion, I was very much in need of some good Easter news. Afterwards, there was a wonderful brunch at the church that included some very tasty mimosas (more good news!). I went in the afternoon to a friend of Sara’s house for a lunch get together, and then we had our monthly volunteer gathering at my coordinator’s home. It was a busy but very good day.

Now I’m wrapping up the last of my vacation, actually getting excited to go back and get to work on Monday (vacation’s not as fun when I’m not traveling), and ready to get back into the swing of things. Hasta luego!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Borderlands 2 - Tucson and Home

Day 204 in Mexico

For me, being in Agua Prieta and getting to interact directly with people risking their lives to cross the border was the most resonating, deeply moving experience in our time at the border. Nevertheless, the second part of our trip also promised to be an exciting one, especially for me. If you’re reading this, you obviously know me well enough to know that I went to college in Tucson; it’s been my home for the past four years, but going to Tucson has always felt like going home. Mine was a unique situation this year, in that YAGMS don’t get to go home during their year of service, except in cases of family emergency. Suddenly I was put in the position of going home, without really going home. As my coordinator put it, our trip to Tucson was in no way an “immersion in Katherine’s life,” it was part of our border immersion. We were going to be there for only two days, and they were very busy days, so I didn’t have time to catch up with old friends. Obviously I was excited to be going back to a city I love, even for such a short time, but I had my share of trepidations. I didn’t know if I would be able to fully concentrate on border issues, often very somber, in a city that, for me, provokes feelings of familiarity, comfort, and nostalgia. I didn’t know if I was going to feel bad about not being able to see people while I was in town. I thought it actually might be pretty hard for me to leave Tucson after two days; who’s to say I wouldn’t want to go back to Mexico at all?

As promised, our time in Tucson was a busy one. Though I was hit with those moments of nostalgia and fond memories, we were so involved with activities that I felt pretty focused (most of the time). We spent our whole first day on patrol with the Samaritans, volunteers from Tucson or Green Valley that go out in the desert, put out water for migrants, hike trails, look for any people in distress, and generally provide any sort of assistance necessary for anyone they encounter. We split into two groups; our Samaritan guide, an older, chain-smoking gentleman with dubious driving skills, was not exactly what I had in mind. Our time with him was also different than I expected; there was very little hiking trails, but there was a lot of driving around southern Arizona for a morning and afternoon. To his credit, he did tell some interesting stories about his life and his time with the Samaritans, and we got to see some interesting things. We made our way down from Tucson to Sasabe, the most inactive border crossing I’ve ever seen, and then over to Arivaca, where we got to see the No More Deaths camp. No More Deaths is another Tucson-based border activism group, and they decided that it was too inefficient to always be leaving for Tucson to go scouting for migrants, especially in the deadly hot summer months. So they set up a camp in the foothills around Arivaca, and during the summer people camp there, all week, every week, for months straight. It eliminates travel time and maximizes time spent looking for people, many of whom would likely die if they weren’t found. Southern Arizona summers are extremely hot to be camping, but at the same time are so much harsher for people trying to cross, often with improper clothing and insufficient water supplies. The day perhaps wasn’t all I had hoped for, but it was interesting to learn more about what the Samaritans do, and how they’re out there helping. However, it ended on a very positive note. Although I didn’t get to see anybody else while I was in Tucson (if you’re reading this from Tucson, sorry I didn’t tell you I was in town! I’ll see you in July J) my country coordinator did let me visit my mom’s house. Our whole group actually got to go there for dinner, and then I spent one night. To be home with my mom and pets, to have a good meal and a comfortable bed, to be somewhere familiar and soothing, was a great blessing, if only for a night. I thoroughly enjoyed it, but I actually wasn’t regretting having to come back to Mexico. I don’t feel like I’ve finished with my time here, or that I’m quite ready to finish, so though I was sad to leave I was also happy to come back.

Continuing on; day two was split between informational time and recreation time. The previous day, after our time with the Samaritans, we also had a presentation from Derechos Humanos, an organization that fights for the legal and human rights of migrants. The second morning we had a presentation from the pastor of South Side Presbyterian Church in South Tucson (a heavily Hispanic area). It was where the sanctuary movement began in the 80’s; the sanctuary movement was in response to the civil wars in Guatemala and El Salvador, and the church provided, well, sanctuary for refugees escaping from said countries. They’re still very much involved in social justice, and now it’s become somewhat of a sanctuary for migrants. They have a day workers program, where men can come to look for work in the mornings. It’s not always a guarantee, but at least they have a safe place where they potentially find a job without having to worry waiting on the street corner and being picked up by the migra. There we also had a presentation by Gene, a founder for the No More Deaths organization, which is the one going out during the summer, camping, and looking for migrants. More than anything else, they’re committed to preventing deaths in the desert; they’re no so heavily involved in the politics, just the politics of saving lives. After our morning of presentations, it was time for a little recreation, so we headed to Sabino Canyon for a worship service, some hiking and reflection. I love Sabino Canyon; if you’re from Tucson, you know what I mean (if you don’t know about Sabino Canyon, you should go!) It’s an absolutely gorgeous state park in northeast Tucson that’s full of wildlife, saguaros, and great hiking trails. It was a good place to unwind a little bit from our trip and, after seeing and hearing about how desolate and dangerous the desert can be, enjoy its beauty as well. We had a small worship to the side of Bear Canyon trail, in which we got to sing, reflect, and as some of us brought along things we had found in the desert during our time there (abandoned water bottles, bandannas, barbed wire) we prayed for the people we met and those we didn’t meet, for all those risking their lives to cross the desert and migrate to a different country. I didn’t do so much reflection after the service, so much as walk around, soak up the desert sun, and enjoy my last afternoon in Tucson, but it was lovely nonetheless. A great way to end our trip (though it was followed the next day by a very long drive all the way back to Hermosillo, a plane to Mexico City, and a bus ride to Cuernavaca. Yikes).

On our last day in Tucson, almost at the end of our activities, Gene told us a story during his No More Deaths presentation. It went like this: There once was a quiet little village on a river. One day a boy went down to the river and saw that there was a baby floating in it. He went out into the river, rescued it, and brought it into the town, where it was fed and cared for. The next day the people of the village saw two babies floating in the river. They did the same thing they had for the first; rescued them, brought them in, and cared for them. The next day there were more babies, and the day after even more. They didn’t stop coming. The people continued to do the same thing: rescue the babies and care for them in the town. They didn’t question why there were babies in the river. They didn’t go upstream to see who was throwing them in. They just rescued all that they could. “This is what we’re doing,” Gene said. “We (the organization and its volunteers) don’t have the time, energy, or manpower to go upstream and see what’s going on. We just have to keep rescuing everyone we can.” This, I thought, was a good summary of our time in Tucson; we got to see the people doing the saving. It is good to know that there are people fighting the political fight, the ones who are going upstream to see what’s going on. But at the same time, it was inspiring to see what was going on at the most human level; the people hiking trails and leaving water, the people camping out in the desert during the hottest, most deadly summer months in order to be as close as possible to the people they’re trying to save, those that put gauze and bandages on the migrant’s blistered foot (more than anything else, a bad blister is the kiss of death for a migrant. Can’t walk, can’t keep up? You’re left behind).

That was the real point of going to Tucson. Being in Agua Prieta and talking to migrants, hearing stories of poverty and struggle and suffering, was heart-breaking. It makes you sad, it makes you angry, it makes you feel helpless. To hear all that and then just go home to our lives and jobs would have been difficult. Going to Tucson allowed us to see what is actually being done to help the migrants, by people from our own country. It gives us, or at least me, a glimmer of hope and inspiration.

So now I’m back in Cuernavaca, and have been for several weeks. Work continues on, and it’s going very well. I’m enjoying the company of the woman in the community center as much as ever, and am content with how proficient I’ve become with my job (it took awhile, but I got there). On the homestay front, however, things after the border didn’t go so smoothly. There were some unfortunate circumstances at the home of Angeles and Fernando, that I don’t need to share, and I felt it necessary that I move out and try my luck with a different host family. We were all disappointed; my decision had nothing to do with Angeles and Fernando themselves, because they were (and are) lovely, warm, welcoming people, and I very much liked living with them. I’m sad that it had to end when it did, but such is life. I moved in with a new host family a few weeks ago, Alicia, Hipolito and Alicia’s grown daughter, Mireya. They’re a very busy family, even more involved in church and community organizations than my first family (I didn’t think it was possible!), and it’s a more independent environment than my first home. Though I like my new family, I am still working on warming to them in the same way I did with Angeles and Fernando. I get the feeling it may not be as easy the second time around. I already have my routine, my friends, my jobs figured out; I don’t need them like I needed Angeles or Fernando, and I don’t need to be as involved in their lives. I gradually grew more independent from Angeles and Fernando as my time went on, but we formed those strong bonds early on. Now I live my life somewhat apart, which perhaps is neither good nor bad, it just is. I’m hoping in time that I’ll be able to maintain good relationships with both families, and as my coordinator said, “Have two places in Mexico to call home.”

Things look to be busy for the next couple weeks. My boyfriend Ehsan will be visiting starting on Saturday (more vacation!), and then it’s Holy Week and Easter, which are very important times in Mexico. It should be a good time.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Borderlands

Day 200 in Mexico

I will begin this entry with an apology. This should have been written long ago. However, this installment is a little more complicated than others have been. It deals with our trip to the Mexico/US border in February. I have briefly mentioned it in past entries, but I’ll explain again. We have to renew our visas halfway through our trip, and as such, the renewing visas trip is expanded into a border immersion, where we spend a week learning and participating in a variety of activities in order to learn more about immigration and border issues. There was so much in this week that touched and saddened and confused me, that it made reflecting upon and conveying what I saw and experienced a difficult task. This may be a multi-part entry; bear with me. I’ll put a little disclaimer in here as well; I know that immigration is a touchy issue, often a very political one, and many people are very much in favor of the wall and current border policies in order to stem illegal immigration. I’m not writing this to argue about border policy or politics, or to convince you of my opinion of the matter. I only want to convey what I witnessed; above all, I think the most important thing is that we remember that it’s not about politics, it’s about humanity and the people whose lives are affected. I can’t talk about everything we did, because it was such a busy week, but I will try to share what impacted me most. Here we go.

Where we went: Starting in Cuernavaca; flew to Hermosillo, Sonora; drove to Agua Prieta (on the border, opposite Douglas, Arizona); spent two full days in Agua Prieta (sleeping each night in Douglas, on the US side); drove to Tucson, Arizona, where we spent our last two days.

What we did:

  • Participated in a Frontera de Cristo Immersion program (a program with the Presbyterian Church on the border in Agua Prieta that brings in immersion groups), in which we visited the drug rehab center CREEDA; helped them in their Agua Para La Vida (Water for Life) project where they fill drinking water tanks on the Mexican side; hiked to the wall outside of Agua Prieta with CREEDA; ate dinner with migrants at CAME, a safe house for repatriated (i.e. deported) migrants in Agua Prieta; volunteered at the Migrant Resource Center, a center right on the border for migrants that are repatriated and are often in need of medical attention, food, water/coffee, a change of clothes, and information.
  • Visited the Border Patrol Station in Douglas, Arizona, and participated in a Healing Our Borders vigil to remember those who have died crossing.
  • In Tucson, went out on patrol with the Samaritans, a group that hikes migrant trails to put out water and assist migrants in distress; visited South Side Presbyterian Church, which has a day worker program for immigrants; had talks from border activist groups such as Derechos Humanos (Human Rights) and No Mas Muertes (No More Deaths); visited Sabino Canyon, a beautiful recreation area, for worship and reflection.

On our first day we went out into the desert outside of Agua Prieta with some men from CREEDA, Raul and Rigo. I’ve lived in Tucson for four years, and I’ve even done this exact trip with my campus ministry group, so the desert is familiar to me. I love the desert, but it feels like a sadder, more desolate place at the border. There the desert reminds me of “The Things They Carried,” the Tim O’Brien story; everywhere you look there are traces of groups that have passed through: empty water jugs, soda cans, torn shirts, food wrappers, bandannas. The people are gone, but their things remain. Our first job was to fill up the water tanks with a huge jug of water, the desert’s most precious and life-giving resource, that we brought along in CREEDA’s pickup truck. Some of us wandered off a little bit to explore the surrounding area, and we found a small gully that was particularly littered with stuff – clothes, food, water jugs, even a ladder. They must be coming back, Rigo told us. I wandered a little farther down the gully, down to were it bent into a corner, and just barely around the corner there was a man, sitting on the ground. He saw me, and I saw him, and we looked at each other, and for a second I didn’t know what to do. Should I just pretend I didn’t see him and leave him be, or should I tell Rigo? I told, and he went to go speak to the man. The other girls and I went along, and rounding the corner, we found this man was not alone. In fact, he was with a group of about twenty other migrants, both men and women, all presumably waiting for nightfall to cross. It was one of those moments where I wish I could remember every detail, the faces of the people and what they said and how they looked, but I was too shocked; I had never thought we would actually encounter a group, only empty desert. Even a few minutes later I had trouble recalling them. They had come from the interior of Mexico, like us, and were heading for a variety of destinations around the US. Rigo just asked them a couple questions, told them there was water nearby if anyone needed it, wished them luck, and that was it. It’s hard to think of what became of that group. I’ll never know if they crossed or not, or where they ended up, or if some never made it out of the desert alive. But even though I don’t know, I wish them well from afar, and hope for the best for them.

After the tanks, we hiked to see the wall. It is ugly, some sections made out of old landing strips from the Vietnam and Gulf Wars. There are heat-sensing cameras, tall iron bars, white Border Patrol SUVS patrolling just on the other side. It’s a militarized zone, literally. Our guides took us out walking to the wall; in the middle of the day, where we could see exactly where we were going, it was a struggle to pick our way through the spiny, scrubby land (but migrants don’t travel during the day; they go at night, when they’re less likely to be detected. Sprained ankle city). As we walked, a small herd of deer, startled by our presence, went bounding northward towards the wall. Obviously unable to get past it, they veered east and continued running along it; it was a sad reminder that the wall doesn’t only affect the migration of people. Once there, we took pictures of it, through it, by it; one of our CREEDA guides, Raul, actually shook a section of the wall. It wobbled back and forth like a stake stuck infirmly and uncertainly in the ground. The wall is tall and imposing, but not impenetrable; it can’t be, for the number of people that get across.

Later that night, at CAME and the Migrant Resource Center, we had the chance to meet some more migrants. Over dinner at CAME, I met Jairo, who was from Honduras. I couldn’t figure out how old he was, probably pretty close to my age. He had a beanie cap and a winning smile, and was very talkative. He had been to more states in the US than I had: California, Colorado, Indiana, Florida, Tennessee, and on and on. He had worked all over, lived all over, had been going to the US since he was 14, had a young son there now with his girlfriend… his life story was really something. He spoke fondly of Honduras and especially his mother, but it was clear that he didn’t want to stay there; there just weren’t the opportunities available that there were in the US. He was bringing his teenage brother with him for the first time, and though I didn’t speak to him, I was told he was all smiles about the exciting adventure he was embarking on. One of the things about Jairo that struck me most was how he got to the US: jumping trains. I know this is how many people come; I’ve seen pictures and documentaries of people doing it. It was different meeting someone who’s done it many times. When I asked him if he thought it was scary or dangerous, he just smiled and said no, that he was used to it, that really it was rather normal. That’s the word he used: normal. I can’t envision a life where jumping northbound trains is normal.

We later spent four hours volunteering at the Migrant Resource Center, which was probably the most deeply moving experience of my time there. It was very hands on; we were constantly busy, heating sandwiches and pouring coffee and picking out clean shirts for arriving groups. It felt like we were actually helping, if only on the most minute level. And we got to hear people’s stories, the real voice of the border, if you will. There was a man from Chihuahua, who had tried to cross several times and failed. When he was telling us about his failing to get across, he hung his head and looked at his shoes. I’ve rarely seen someone look so defeated and tired. There was another man, whose name I unfortunately don’t remember. He was heading for Salinas, California, to work for the same farm he’s been working at seasonally for years. He talked fondly about the work and his patron, who was Italian and a good boss, and at the end of the season would have a big party for all the workers. He talked about the crops they grew, how the soil was good there for certain crops, how the color of the soil dictated what kind of chilies grew best. He proudly unzipped his jacket to show me his T-shirt, which had the logo of the farm emblazoned on the lapel. But what stuck me about him was how nervous he was; he had failed to cross and was waiting for a call from his brother, who was already in California, so he could plan his next move. Every time the phone rang, he would look up hopefully and expectantly, but it was never for him. I was sitting across from him, trying to smile and make small talk, but all I could think about was how powerless I was to comfort him, or to offer him any sort of reassurance. A big group came in, and by the time the bustling center died down he was gone. I don’t know if he got a hold of his brother or not, but I hope so. There was another young man whose story I won’t forget. He was young, 20something maybe, and when we asked him “Quieres más café?” (Do you want more coffee), he replied, “Nah, that’s okay, ‘preciate it,” in English. Sitting down to talk with him (Eduardo), he had gone to the US with his family when he was ten. He had gone to middle and high school in the US, spoke perfect English, and could have been any young guy walking around the UA campus. Cool kid, lived in California with his family. I don’t remember how he originally got deported, but the last time he tried to cross he was caught crawling through the ditch by the Douglas Walmart. He saw an agent in his truck and panicked and started running, which is when the agent started chasing him. I could hear the regret in his voice, the “if only”; if only he hadn’t run, maybe he would have made it. He didn’t offer a lot more insight into his situation than a shrug and “it sucks,” but hearing his story made it seem ridiculous that he was deported to a country that was no longer his home. He had no family there, he hadn’t been there in a decade, and it was obvious that he wasn’t going to stay. Without a doubt, he won’t stop trying till he makes it.

The next day we visited the Border Patrol. It was hard walking in there after a night spent with people who had just been caught by the migra (slang for the BP) and had only terrible things to say about them, but I was pleasantly surprised by the openness and the professionalism that I witnessed. The agent that gave us our tour, agent George, was a slight, blond woman shorter than me, serious but friendly, who was in fact a former kindergarten teacher who absolutely loved her job on the Border Patrol. Our whole tour was way more thorough than I ever expected. The station was new and spacious; there were pictures of their K-9 and ATV units and of agents at local school fairs on the walls. We saw their trucks, the holding cells where they keep recently apprehended people, even the control room where they control all of the equipment along the border and monitor the agents in the field via cameras. They were very excited to be able to actually catch someone while we were watching. “You guys are lucky,” one guy said, “Usually when groups come in there’s no action.” It seemed like they were playing a computer game. During our whole tour, agent George was game to answer all our questions; surprisingly, she said that the wall wasn’t diminishing the number of people that were coming across. I knew this was the case, but I never thought it would hear it from the mouth of the Border Patrol. I asked her if the wall wasn’t working, then what would, and her response didn’t involve anything about further barriers or tightened security or militarization; she said there needs to be a easier way for people to get visas to come legally (from what I understand, it’s extremely difficult, and next to impossible if you don’t have the money or family already in the States to petition for you to come). She didn’t seem particularly interested in the making of immigration policies; she was very much focused on the task at hand: apprehending “aliens,” as she said, be they migrants or drug dealers or what have you. The visit was perhaps just as important as our time in the Migrant Resource Center. Both migrants and the people that catch them need to be humanized. There are migrants that come across looking for jobs to feed their families, and people that come across smuggling drugs. There are migra agents that do their job professionally and perhaps even compassionately, and then there are jerks. Neither side is all good or all evil; neither side deserves to be made the villain. It’s far too complicated for all that.

After that visit, we wrapped up our time in Agua Prieta by participated in a vigil at the border, remembering those who died (at least those who were found). I thought it would be a quiet, reflective time at the wall. It wasn’t. Instead, a small group of us walked down the road that leads to the border check point, each carrying an armful of white crosses. Every few feet a person would stop, hold up a cross, and scream the name inscribed on it in marker to the passing traffic. Then the cross was placed along the side of the road. By the time we were done, the road was lined with crosses… women, men, young, old, unidentified. I’m guessing that when the people whose crosses I held were making their way through the desert, they never imagined that some day some white girl would be reading their name and shouting them to the world. I wish they would have made it, so I wouldn’t have had to. But perhaps it is some very small comfort that they were not forgotten.

That’s a glimpse of my two days in Agua Prieta. Just two days. I could write pages and pages about it. But I will stop for now. I’ll share a bit about my time in Tucson later.